Motivate yourself by giving someone else the ideas necessary for self-motivation. You can have any experience you want in life simply by giving that experience away to someone else. John Lennon called it"instant karma."In most of our relationships we stay focused on ourselves. We’re fascinated by how we’re “coming off.” We’re constantly monitoring what others must now be thinking of us. We live as if mirrors surround us.
Norman Vincent Peale used to observe that shy people were the greatest egomaniacs on earth, because they were so focused on themselves. You can see that when you observe the body language of ashy person. The looking down and turning in. The curling-up with self-consciousness—as if surrounded by mirrors.
When we shift our focus to the other person in the relationship, something paradoxically powerful happens. By forgetting ourselves we start to grow. I have developed an entire seminar around this one shift.It is called “Relation-Shift.”
Spencer Johnson, author of The One-Minute Sales Person, calls it “the wonderful paradox: I have more fun, and enjoy more financial success, when I stop trying to get what I want and start helping other people get what they want.”
If you want to be motivated, shift your inspiration to someone else.Point out the strengths of the other individual to him or her. Offer encouragement and support. Offer guidance in his or her own self-motivation. Watch what it does for you.