If you associate the word “willpower” with negative things, such as harsh self-denial and punishment, you will weaken your resolve to build it. To increase your resolve, it’s of ten useful to think of new word associations.To weight lifters, failure is success. Unless they lift a weight to the point of “failure,” their muscles aren’t growing. So they have programmed themselves, through repetition, to use the word “failure” in a positive sense.
They also call what we would call “pain” something positive: “the burn.” Getting to “the burn” is the goal! You’ll hear bodybuilders callout to each other: “Roast ’em!” By consciously using motivated language, they acquire access to inner power through the use of the human will.
Zen philosopher and scholar Alan Watts also used to hate the word"discipline" because it had so many negative connotations. Yet he knew that the key to enjoying any activity was in the discipline. So he would substitute the word “skill” for “discipline” and when he did that he was able to develop his own self-discipline.Language leads to power, so be conscious of the creative potential of the language you use, and guide it in the direction of more personal power.